Peacemaker Ministries is a ministry dedicated to equipping Christians to resolve disputes biblically. www.peacemaker.net.
Peacemaker Ministries has helpful resources available to help equip Christians in conflict. To start with, I recommend that those involved in a conflict learn the biblical process taught in The Peacemaker, a book by Ken Sande, President of Peacemaker Ministries, or from some other available resource, including DVD series that are available on their website.
Some of the foundational principles and scriptures of biblical peacemaking are:
God desires that we live for his glory. Whether our lives are blessed and happy or full of trials, troubles, and sorrows, by God’s grace, including the power to obey him, and by God’s mercy, we can glorify Him. We glorify him when we obey him and do his commands no matter what the circumstances, trusting that he will work it out. This includes following his principles for marriage, divorce, children, family life, work, our attitudes about money and possessions, our communication, what we do with anger, whether we forgive when wronged, whether we humble ourselves and repent when we do wrong, and whether we become bitter in the trials of life or joyful to our faithful God whose grace is sufficient through Jesus Christ for all these things.
1When Jesus had spoken these words, he lifted up his eyes to heaven, and said, “Father, the hour has come; glorify your Son that the Son may glorify you, 2since you have given him authority over all flesh, to give eternal life to all whom you have given him. 3 And this is eternal life, that they know you the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent. 4I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do. 5And now, Father, glorify me in your own presence with the glory that I had with you before the world existed.
1 Corinthians 10:31
31So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
17And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Get the Log Out of Your Own Eye
God wants us to take responsibility for our part of conflicts, repent of our sins, and ask forgiveness from others who have been affected by our sins. Taking responsibility for our behavior in a God honoring way can lead to a breakthrough in restoring relationships and resolving substantive disputes and issues.
Be Reconciled with People
Reconciliation with People Required before Coming to Worship God
23 So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
Be Humble in Conflict and Legal Disputes
25 Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are going with him to court, lest your accuser hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you be put in prison. 26Truly, I say to you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.
What your eyes have seen do not hastily bring into court, for what will you do in the end, when your neighbor puts you to shame? Argue your case with your neighbor himself, and do not reveal another’s secret, lest he who hears you bring shame upon you, and your ill repute have no end.